Covenant Marriage - How 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 Helps Us Love Better - Guest Post by Jessika Sanders

So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. - Ephesians 5:33 (NLT)

I was previously married.


I cringe as I utter those words, I shudder as I type them. I hate that even four years later, I feel a hint of shame as I envision the faded scarlet letter of divorce that remains. Although I know Christ has redeemed me, given me new life, and freed me of my shame, I hate that divorce is part of my story. I realize that God is bigger than the sum of my mistakes. I know He is bigger than my divorce, and I know He continues to use it. After all, God used my failed marriage to call me to Him, and He used my failed marriage to teach me about covenant marriage.

A covenant marriage is unique in that it consists of three individuals—man, wife, and Christ. When man and wife agree to marry, they make a promise, or covenant, to be joined together as one before God. In Biblical times, if a covenant promise was not honored, it resulted in death. (Think “‘Til death do us part.”) A covenant marriage is one in which man and wife are in constant pursuit of Christ and the desire to love one another as Christ loves them.