How to Forgive Your Husband - Why forgiveness is important for a healthy relationship

For if you forgive others their trespasses [their reckless and willful sins], your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive others [nurturing your hurt and anger with the result that it interferes with your relationship with God], then your Father will not forgive your trespasses. - Matthew 6:14-15 (AMP)

There has recently been an increase in studies related to the area of forgiveness in a marriage relationship. Psychologists and doctors are (unsurprisingly) finding that forgiveness is one of the most crucial components of a healthy marriage.

As for me, forgiveness is not something that comes easily. When my husband hurts me, (whether he meant to or not) the last thing on my mind is forgiveness. I'd rather hurt him back, call him names, ignore him for several days, or at the very least, nag him for weeks about his treatment towards me. Instead of forgiving, I usually end up holding a huge grudge or resentment instead in order to "guard myself."

The problem is, holding onto anger is not the best way to guard ourselves. We believe that our anger will somehow show the other person how much they hurt us. But the problem is, holding on to resentment or anger does nothing except drive a wedge even further in our marriage.

When we are resentful towards our husbands, they can feel it. They begin to wonder why. They start to feel uncared about or unloved. T